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Getting married is a special occasion wherever you are in the world. However, different cultures have their own unique ways of preparing for and celebrating the happy couple’s nuptials. QUIZ, retailers of occasion dresses and going out tops, tell us a few weird and wonderful wedding traditions from around the world.
German bridal traditions
In Germany, the engagement and wedding process comes with many traditions, some start before the big day has even announced. For example, before a future bride-to-be is even engaged, she saves away pennies, which will then be used to purchase her wedding shoes. This tradition is said to help the happy couple get off on the right foot.
The way that Germans send their invites out is very different too. They send out a Hochzeitslader, a gentleman dressed in formal, fancy wear complete with ribbons and flowers, to hand-deliver their invitations. Guests accept the invitations by pinning a ribbon from the Hochzeitslader’s outfit onto his hat, before inviting him into their home for a drink. Depending on the guest list, this can take quite some time!
It’s a requirement for German couples to wed in their town registry office. Then, in the days following, a church ceremony can be held, although this isn’t required. Generally, few guests will attend the civil ceremony and the bride and groom will dress relatively simply.
If the couple chooses to have a church ceremony, it’s traditional for a Polterabend to take place a few days after the civil ceremony. Believing that negative spirits are attracted to brides, Polterabend takes place to scare them aware. On the night before the church ceremony, the bride and groom gather with their friends and family where they smash china and porcelain. The noise made is said to scare away the spirits, while illustrating that their marriage will never break. Glass is never broken, as this is believed to be bad luck.
After the service is finished, some German newlyweds may saw logs. A log is set up on a sawhorse and the bride and groom must work together to saw through it, illustrating their teamwork. Instead of confetti, wedding guests throw grains of rice over the bride and groom, with legend being that each grain of rice that lands in the bride’s hair symbolises a future child!
During the reception, the bride’s veil is held up and the bride and groom dance underneath it. When the music stops, single women will tear pieces off the veil. The lady left with the biggest piece is said to be the next to marry. Alternatively, instead of ripping the veil, guests simply throw money into it while it is held up.
Spanish wedding traditions
Spanish couples follow very different traditions to those here in the UK. For example, they don’t include bridesmaids, groomsmen, a maid of honour or best man, and the mother of the groom walks her son down the aisle. Likewise, there are no speeches and wedding rings are worn on the ring finger of the right hand.
At one time, the wedding dress and veil was actually made from black lace! However, modern times have seen more brides wearing a white lace dress and mantilla, a type of lace headdress. The mantilla is traditionally given by the mother of the bride, who will have it embroidered especially. The mantilla is worn with a peineta — a high comb.
It’s not unusual for traditional Spanish weddings to begin in the early evening and continue into the early hours. Often, the groom will present his bride with 13 gold coins, each blessed by a priest. This act is said to bring the couple good fortune and symbolise the groom’s commitment to support his bride.
Flowers are a big part of Spanish weddings. Many choose the orange blossom to symbolise purity. The bride will give a small flower corsage to her girlfriends. If a lady is single, she must wear her corsage upside down and if she loses it during the night, it’s believed that she will be next to be married!
Chinese bridal traditions
Due to the size of the country, traditions can vary from region to region, yet each has their own special meaning.
For Tujia brides, one tradition is that they must cry for an hour a day every day for a month in the run-up to their wedding. After the first ten days, the bride’s mother joins her in crying daily before being joined by her grandmother. As the other women join in, it’s seen as an expression of their joy.
For brides who are from the Yugar culture, they are shot by their grooms with a bow and arrow (thankfully, the arrows are free from their arrowheads!). After shooting their bride three times, the arrows are broken, showing that the couple will always love each other.
As the bride is getting ready on her special day, a ‘good luck woman’ will help the bride do her hair. This woman is considered lucky if she has living parents, a spouse and children, and it is hoped she will pass on some of this good fortune to the bride.
It’s tradition for the groom to collect the bride from her home, where he is greeted by the bride’s friends, who block his entry into the home (it’s all in good spirits). The groom is required to prove his love for his future wife through answering a series of questions about her or even by offering money in red envelopes to buy his way into the house.
Brides who live in northern China traditionally wear a red dress or Qi Pao, embroidered with gold and silver detailing. In southern China, brides wear a two-piece outfit — a Qun Gua, Kwa or Cheongsam — featuring a gold phoenix or dragon detailing.
A tradition on the wedding night is for the bride to be given a half-cooked dumpling. This is a signifier of family prosperity, as the word raw is linked to child birth.
Indian wedding traditions
India is similar to China in that wedding traditions differ depending on the region. It’s not uncommon for Indian weddings to take place over several days — different to the couple’s one special day in other countries.
Before the wedding day, the bride partakes in a Mehendi ceremony. This is where family and friends gather to apply the beautifully intricate henna. Tradition says that the deepness of the colour of the henna determines the bond between husband and wife and how well the bride will get along with her mother-in-law. Hidden within the henna are the names of the happy couple and it’s often painted on the palms, hands, forearms and legs.
What about outfits? This again depends on where the bride was born. In some regions, the women will wear a saree (long drape) for her wedding and in others she wears a lehenga (a long skirt). It’s common for the bride to be dressed in red or another bright colour and her clothing is stitched with an outstanding design.
One key aspect of an Indian wedding is the walk around the fire. The marriage becomes official when the bride and groom walk around the fire four times as verses are chanted, and the couple is tied together. The husband and wife then race back to their seats, as the one who sits first is said to be the most dominant.
Will you take any inspiration from these wedding traditions for your special day?
This is so interesting to see all the different cultures and the beauty within each of their traditions. It’s also cool to see the differences within our country regarding different regions.
I love when weddings are truly representative of the bride and groom. There’s no better way to show that than to have both their cultures represented. What a beautiful opportunity for guests.
I love that many countries hold their own wedding traditions. It really makes it a whole event to look forward to!
Interesting. I’m a traditionalist so I’m all about doing things the way they’ve always been done. I am open to thinking a little outside the box in terms of the ceremony though.
The most bizarre of these is the crying part. I’m a non-traditional person. I like to do things that are near and dear to us as a couple.
I enjoyed this little trip around the world. The info on German weddings was completely new to me. And I didn’t know that Chinese brides had to cry so much! Wow! Great post.
What an interesting post! I love learning such unique details about different cultures and their traditions. I think the idea of a personally deliver invitation like the German tradition is so special.
While I do not plan on having a huge wedding ceremony, I do find this interesting.
I’ve been to an Indian wedding before and its definitely an experience. Still can’t believe the groom gets to ride in on an elephant
Thank you for sharing these beautiful traditions. I definitely learned a lot. I love how the Germany community sends out their invitations. Such a unique idea.
Nicole of NLLMag
One the hats I wear is a wedding planner, and it’s always amazing learning all the cultures and wedding traditions. Thanks for sharing that of Germany – i learned something new.
Great Read! I love reading about the different cultures and traditions! I personally love wedding traditions mixed with things the couple loves! But I LOVE how they send out invites!